How can you MODERATE an addictive behaviour? The very word addiction means once you start you cannot stop, it means you are a slave to something, it means you are powerless over your behaviour, it means you are preoccupied with the behaviour, it means you cannot go through life without indulging in the addictive behaviour. How are you meant to MODERATE an ADDICTION? Totally impossible to understand this concept isn’t it?
However, the good news is that it isn’t the addictive behaviour that is the problem, IT IS YOU AND YOU CAN CHANGE IF YOU WANT TO. It is your inability to cope with life without indulging in the addictive behaviour. It is your fear of letting go of a behaviour that is so deeply ingrained it has become your default setting.
What is it you are looking for? What is it you are running away from? Why is life so unbearable without this behaviour? Why can’t you accept that sometimes your feelings will be unbearable/difficult/irritating/frustrating? Why can’t you accept that sometimes your feelings will be overwhelming/too exciting/too depressing…………………..
I wish I could answer all these questions and maybe some n be answered in time, however, what I can answer is that for what ever the reason – that does describe youand until you let go of the addictive behaviour you will never know life with freedom and joy. You can remain a SLAVE to your behaviours or you can dig deep and find some courage to change and live a different life.
Recovery is about abstaining from the behaviours for a short time and then gradually introducing them back into your life in a well balanced and moderate way. It is about compassion for yourself. It is about learning about yourself and what makes you tick and how you can change the things that cause you to indulge in addictive behaviours.
These behaviours are : eating disorders/love addiction/compulsive exercise/excessive spending/internet addiction/porn addiction/obsessive relationships ……… the list is endless for they are the things that are part of life but you are indulging in them to excess………………… embrace change today………..do something different and break free.